Sunday, February 17, 2013

My Shame

Yesterday morning I had an 'aha!' moment.



I was mad at the car wash guy who was taking so long
(well not really...but it seemed that way to me)
to reset the car wash stall that I was waiting to drive in to.

As I sat there with thoughts of how incompetent he was,
getting madder with every moment that passed,
he turned to me, smiled and waved and motioned me to drive in.

His smile was genuine.
He was doing his best.

All of a sudden,
an overwhelming feeling of shame came over me.
I smiled and waved back and mouthed 'Thank You' to him.

For the rest of my day as I ran errands,
I made a conscious effort to
'be kind'
to everyone that helped me.

After all,
most of us are just trying to get through our day
and are doing the best that we can.


kind
adj. kind·erkind·est
1. Of a friendly, generous, or warm-hearted nature.
2. Showing sympathy or understanding; charitable: a kind word.
3. Humane; considerate: kind to animals.
4. Forbearing; tolerant: Our neighbor was very kind about the window we broke.
5. Generous; liberal: kind words of praise.



“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” 
― Dalai Lama XIV

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” 
― Mother Teresa

43 comments:

Deb said...

That's the number one quality I look for in a person. We certainly all have our moments, though.

Kea said...

It's a good lesson, Catherine; excellent post.

Sometimes, though, in the heat of the moment it can be difficult to take that deep breath and mentally step back, to realize we're in the grip of our egos, as Eckhart Tolle would put it. After all, we can't escape our egos--everything human is ego, whether we perceive our thoughts and actions as being good or bad.

TexWisGirl said...

awww...

i love the mother teresa quote.

S. Etole said...

Good thoughts to begin the week.

Brian said...

Yep, being kind is the way to go!

Susan said...

Oh we are so human aren't we! To love one another and be kind would definitely change the world. What I find wonderful is that it usually starts with just one person.

Nancy said...

Acting once convicting is the important thing to me....We all mess up but once we realize it and change that's the important thing......Just think of all the people you impacted once you realized what was going on.....

Chatty Crone said...

I wish every one would love to be just a little kind.

Lin said...

That's funny---one of my other blog pallies just wrote how she was in a GOOD mood and some yahoo ruined it for her. But, she came to the same conclusion you did--check yourself and your attitude, for it touches and affects those around you.

Well said, my friend. It's kindness, in the end, that matters.

Happy week ahead, my friend.

Kathryn said...

Love the honesty of this post . . . I've certainly had days like that and then someone does something kind or genuine and it gives me an attitude adjustment.

BeadedTail said...

That was quite an aha! moment and certainly a good lesson! We are trying to do the best we can and being kind to one another just makes it all that much better. Now if only my boss would learn that lesson.

Mr Puddy said...

Mom said human men go easy than human women who is over 40 !..LOL
Have a lovely day

SweetMarie said...

This is a wonderful post! I too have had moments like this.:) Enjoy your Monday!

Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams said...

We should all be having some of those ah ha moments....

I'm glad it all worked out in the end.

Jen

Terra said...

Jesus said that the greatest quality is love, and that is very related to being kind. I agree with you that kindness is a virtue we all need to practice. A lot.

Betsy Adams said...

Hi Catherine, I see LESS kindness shown these days than ever before. People are in such a hurry that they don't even try to be KIND anymore. Kinda sad, isn't it????

We've been in Arkansas this week enjoying some time at gorgeous Mt. Nebo. Hope you had a good week.

Hugs,
Betsy

BumbleVee said...

more people should be like the Lama.... turn to the religion of kindness ....what a great world this would be .....

Heather said...

Simply... beautiful! Cheers~

Linens and Royals said...

Wish I'd read this before I went out this morning. I might not have walked out of a meeting being monopolised by a woman who talked about her bad health for 20 minutes till I could take no more. XX
PS. I wanted to talk about cats but I'm sure no one would listen to me for 20 mins.

Crafting Queen said...

Thank you, it's something I need to do a lot more. Sending you and Banjo lots of hugs.

Jen said...

It's funny how sometimes something that sounds so simple (like being kind) can be so challenging. I've slowed down an awful lot since all of my medical misadventures began, and have redoubled (maybe tripled; quadrupled? quintupled? ;o) my efforts to be more patient and kind throughout my day.

After all, nobody likes a crotchety old crankypants, right? *grin*

It's me said...

Hhahahahahaha....smile ......;-)))))......lovely week.....have fum and don't forget to smile !!!...xxx...

Tammy@T's Daily Treasures said...

Yes, there are times when we need a smack upside the head to come to that realization. And then there are times when others might benefit from a smack upside the head. HA! :) I do try to give folks the benefit of the doubt. Some don't make it easy though. But I definitely always practice kindness and compassion. Have a beautiful week. Tammy

Kerri said...

Oh what a wonderful post!!!

Tamago said...

Wow your wonderful experience made my day! I understand that you got mad with the guy. I would feel the same way when he is taking so long. How interesting his smile could turn things around just like that. And you are wonderful to make efforts to be kind. Your kindness must have made many people feel good and happy :-)

Becca said...

I LOVE this! So many times I have been in that situation and you are right...time to take a step back, take a deep breath and just be kind...it's easier and feels so much better doesn't it? Thank you for sharing this!

troutbirder said...

Indeed. I wish I could be more virtuous being lacking in that patience department...:(

Sandra said...

thank you for this reminder, it is so true.. glad you found your smile and shared it... i will try to

Coloring Outside the Lines said...

It's that word of the year for me- patience...I think it is the root of most of my bad moods and ugly thoughts. Hey, not to complain, but it something wrong with your font on the comments? I have bad eyes, so maybe it's just me...seems real faint.

Katnip Lounge said...

I think moments like that are a blessing, reminding me of *just* how important I'm not.

~*Connie*~ said...

big beautiful life lesson being shared, and all I can say is:

I love that toy in the photo!

Smareis said...

Olá Catherine,
Tem dia que a gente passa por esses momentos.

Depois de um tempinho ausente do blog estou de volta.Já tem postagem nova.
Deixo um grande abraço!
Ótima semana!

Refletindo com a Smareis---Clique Aqui----

Ann said...

A good reminder for all of us. It's easy to get sucked into the annoying things that happen.

Carolynn Anctil said...

We all have little wake-up calls like that, from time to time. It's amazing how a simple smile can turn a day around, isn't it?

Something I've noticed, that's interesting to me, maybe not to anyone else...there are usually 33 comments on your page when I leave mine. I wonder it it means anything. *smile*

Hot Rocks said...

Its true, sometimes we get caught up in the hustle and bustle, and little things just tick us off, taking our frustrations out on some poor person just trying to do their job. Its a good practice to just take a deep breath at those moments, and like you say.... try a little kindness.

Lúcia said...

Many times I become impatient too, then I try to smile and I see how positively people react to a simple smile. :)

Sylvia said...

Love these kind thoughts, Catherine !
Beautiful quotes !
Have a nice week,
Sylvia

Splendid Little Stars said...

kindness--a fruit of the Spirit.
yes, not always easy to remember, when we have important agendas on our minds.
But kindness changes everything, doesn't it?

Linda R said...

I do believe that kindness is contagious.. Or at least I would like to think it is. :) I do hope you have a happy week my friend.

Hugs~

Michael Manning said...

Glad you posted this, Catherine. I believe we are all under more stress now than ever. This was an encouraging story to me, and no doubt many others!!! :)

Nancy Claeys said...

Amen. :)

The Smiths said...

Kindness goes a long way & makes us feel so good... Wouldn't it be great if we all tried to be kind to others no matter what.

Have a lovely weekend Catherine.

Kay :)

Jaime said...

Oh my gosh.. I have experienced this too... in the car... not the carwash, but still. I have been super mad at someone for cutting me off, or doing something small, and then when they offer me a sweet little smile, and sometimes mouth the word "sorry" with their lips, I immediately melt... and then feel horrible!

I'm glad I'm not the only one. And your little reminder might help me to be a little more patient in my car tomorrow.

xo

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